Men Don't Listen and Wayne L. Misner 2023©    


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(By Wayne L. Misner,

  Most of us think, when we hear the word “bridge, of a structure built to span physical obstacles. Such a bridge may cover a body of water, valley, or road, for the purpose of providing passage over the obstacle. Another meaning may be love as the bridge between two hearts.  

  Bridge is also a mind bridge passageway…. Memories replaying themselves. Human memory is a complex, brain-wide process that is essential to whom we are. Encoded in our brain, it involves short and long term memories. Unlocking the mind bridge may come from a smell, something we see, what we hear or while we dream. Most dreams are a coded communication. Hearing an old song brings me abruptly back to that moment in time, as if time has stood still. I can cry, laugh, and be scared to death all, by hearing the old tune once again. Seeing a person from the past or smelling an aroma bridges us to another time.

  What seems to be a single memory is actually a complex construction. You are never aware of these separate mental experiences, nor that they're coming from all different parts of your brain, because they all work together so well. In fact, experts tell us there is no firm distinction between how you remember and how you think. Our memories build a special bridge.

  Keys to unlocking long-term memory or short term memory involve your senses.

  Emotion can have a powerful impact on memory. Numerous studies have shown that the most vivid autobiographical memories tend to be of emotional events, which are likely to be recalled more often and with more clarity and detail than neutral events

  The Passageway for retrieval of stored information must locate and return it to our consciousness. Information may come through this bridge, but some retrieval attempts are maybe effortless or not even desirable.


  I believe love builds bridges where there are none. In true love, the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. Sometimes the hardest thing to know is which bridge to cross and which bridge to burn. Do you ever think back to old memories like that? While we sleep, work, or play this bridge can take us over to another time and place, without our wanting to go or even when we may not want to go there.

  So don’t be surprised that you can be involved in one task and from nowhere these thoughts and memories, for ages stored in the deepest levels of your inner being, appear. Your first thought is, “Where did that come from? How did I ever come up with that?”

  There are sad lessons learned from burning bridges. Bridges can be fun, confusing, sad, and evoke many other emotions. I want to bridge the distance between us, by building a road that goes over that Bridge”. We may then all travel together and be the memories that travel your mind bridge passageway. Those memories will interfere with the tasks on hand but leave you with a pleasant smile on your face and fill you with a happy glow of warmth.   May the bridge have a tollbooth that pays you with cheer, contentment, delight, enjoyment, good humor, laughter, and peace of mind.

Love can build bridges; don't you think it's time?