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Some May Call Me a Dreamer©

(By Wayne L. Misner,

  A mistake people sometimes make is trying to live in the future. No time today to be happy, but when I ………………………….The sad part of this concept is some may not make it to the future. Those that do may be in for a big shock. The future is more of the same or perhaps worst. The statement, “Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling. ~Margaret Lee Runbeck” states a reality that we all should follow. Live each day as it may be your last. I know that sounds horrible but, enjoying today, not letting the pressures get you down, laughing at your mistakes, letting go of the need to control ever piece of life every second of the day will set you free.

  Not free from responsibilities, which are always there waiting for you. We can feel overloaded with obligations or deflated by delays. I mean free to see the beauty of life. Rain touching the trees and flowers. Butterflies sharing their colors, birds singing to you, the sun bouncing rays across your path. Inhale the beauty of a moment. The pleasures of being alive. Capturing what pleasures you find each moment as you pursue your dreams is what Margaret Lee Runbeck ~ “Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling” is saying. I like to call it a mind set. Where you make a conscious effort to NOT let the day to day tough events get under your skin to irritate the happiness from your body. Those pressures are soon taken out on those around you. Most likely on those you should be sharing love with and instead you share tension.

  I know some people believe that I’m a dreamer. They are correct. I do live my everyday life as if it is a dream. What’s wrong with that? Yes, we must blend dreams with reality. As a young boy I would day dream that I would be a great ball player one day and a fireman saving people the next day. OK for a young kid you say, but not for a grown man who must survive each day, support loved ones, compete in the market place, search for love or, if you are one of those lucky ones that already have love, make sure you do everything within your power to keep it. For some of us know keeping love alive may be like trying to hold a fist full of sand.


 You must reconcile your fantasies with what is actually possible. There's no room for self-doubt, so put unwavering faith in your ability to make your dreams come true. Once you accept your own irresolvable paradox, the external ones become more manageable.

 My point is pleasing yourself comes first now, since your happiness is key to being more desirable to others. Sounds selfish but if you are miserable, what are the chances you are making anyone around you happy?

“But I don't think of the future, or the past, I feast on the moment. This is the secret of happiness, but only reached now in middle age.”-Virginia Woolf

I don’t want middle age to be the starting gate. The lesson we must learn, is not a secret in middle age but whatever age we are right at this moment in time.

So repeat after me, “I am the happiness that I seek”, “I am the happiness that I seek”. Set your mind set. Some say the rest of your life starts today. If you start today and you become the happiness you seek, by not only feeling it but by sharing happiness with all those that are around you and those that you meet, who knows, you maybe able to catch up to me.